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As you’re preparing to become gay parents, you’re likely equally as excited and nervous about the joys and challenges ahead of you. Being parents is a life-changing journey regardless of your sexual orientation, and we’re excited for you as you take this new step in your life.
If you’re ready to take the first step towards parenthood, get in touch with a surrogacy professional today.
It’s normal to have some reservations about becoming parents, and as same-sex parents, you may be wondering whether there are any unique same-sex parenting issues that you should prepare for before making this commitment. While being a gay parent is in many ways no different from being a heterosexual parent, there may be some unexpected challenges that arise as you raise your child.
In this article, we’ll give a basic rundown of what gay parents and children of same-sex parents might experience throughout their lives together, as well as the importance of addressing these challenges early and in a proactive way.
It’s important to note that, as parents, you are not just defined by your sexual orientation; loving parents are loving parents, regardless of gender or sexuality. Terms like “gay parents” or “same-sex parents” may not represent your preferred language or gender identity, and our use of these terms may even seem odd, insensitive or unnecessary to you. You can learn more about these language choices here.
As an LGBT individual, you’re likely well aware of the prejudice that some people still have against LGBT people, including same-sex parent families. And, while the American attitude toward LGBT individuals is slowly improving, you may still face rude and hurtful comments from others because of your sexual orientation.
Some of this prejudice is specifically aimed at gay couples raising a child. Some people claim that LGBT parenting is harmful to children, but we know today that this is an incredibly ignorant statement. Multiple studies have shown that children of same-sex couples are just as happy and healthy as those raised by heterosexual couples. They may even show increased empathy and friendship for peers because of the open-minded family they grew up in.
As long as a family is stable and supportive of a child, it doesn’t matter whether parents are gay, straight or any other sexual orientation. The American Psychological Association even agreed in a formal statement, saying “the adjustment, development, and psychological well-being of children (are) unrelated to parental sexual orientation.”
While you unfortunately may face prejudice from time to time while being a gay parent, know that there is no proof that your sexual orientation will have any negative impact on your child — they’ll just be happy to have a loving, supportive parent.
While there are no proven negative effects on children of same-sex parents because of their parents’ sexuality, there are still some potential challenges you must address just in case. Because your family will be considered “nontraditional,” it will invite unwanted questions and comments — both curious and harmful. As an LGBT parent, it will be up to you to prepare your family for these moments.
As mentioned, one of the best ways to prepare yourself for the challenges of same-sex parenting is by joining gay parent support groups, where you can glean advice from others who have been in your situation. There are also some important tips that all same-sex couples raising children should be aware of and incorporate into their lives:
When you work with a surrogacy agency you get education and support from your surrogacy specialist and counselors.
In addition, any children of same-sex parents born via surrogacy will face other challenges with this part of their identity. You’ll need to normalize their birth story, help them accept their identity as a donor-conceived child and address more unique issues that you may not have anticipated. Your surrogacy professional can usually help explain these in more depth and offer you tips and resources to prepare for this future.
While these potential same-sex parenting issues may seem overwhelming, remember that there are many happy LGBT parents and their children in the U.S. today — and you will soon be joining that community. Don’t let these challenges dissuade you from achieving your parenting dreams; every parent has unique situations they overcome as they have children and learn about raising them on the fly.
Never be afraid to ask for help, whether that’s from other same-sex parents or professionals. With the proper foresight and preparation, you can have the family you’ve always dreamed about and create positive memories that you’ll cherish forever, no matter your sexual orientation or gender identity.
If have more questions about surrogacy as an LGBT couple, reach out to a surrogacy professional today to get additional support.
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