Getting to Know the Intended Parents

Intended parents are also screened to ensure they are safe to work with and emotionally and financially ready to commit to you and to the surrogacy process.

Finding intended parents through your surrogacy professional or on your own is just the first step to making sure that you have the perfect match. The next step is getting to know them — discovering who they are, what they’re really like and if they really are the right people to partner with throughout your surrogacy journey. For many surrogates, talking to intended parents in person or over the phone gives them that “gut feeling” that they’re looking for in intended parents.

In this article, find out more about how you can get to know intended parents and what questions to ask to make sure you are the perfect fit for each other.

Communicating with a Prospective Match

At this point in your surrogacy journey, you will have completed your surrogate profile, viewed profiles of families who may be a good fit for your surrogacy plan, and found a potential match who has reciprocated interest and wants to get to know you. This is an exciting time in your surrogacy journey!

When both parties have reciprocated interest in one another, the next step is to set up an initial meeting or conference call to get to know one another better. If you choose to work with a surrogacy agency, your surrogacy specialist can set up this meeting for you, give you some tips on connecting with the intended parents and mediate the conversation.

During this initial meeting or phone conversation, you will want to focus on getting to know the intended parents on a personal level. It helps to make a personal connection and find common ground with the intended parents before diving into the details of your surrogacy plans.

Here are some basic questions you may want to ask your intended parents as you begin your initial conversation:

You may also want to ask the intended parents about information they included on their profile, such as their professional or educational background, their spouse or partner, and the region where they live.

Allow the conversation to progress naturally, as you would when getting to know any new friend. Your surrogacy professional can provide additional suggestions for connecting with the intended parents during your initial phone call.

Getting to Know Intended Parents

As a prospective surrogate, you want to be sure you choose the right intended parents to work with throughout the surrogacy process. If you work with a surrogacy agency, some of this work will be done for you — you will only be presented with potential intended parents whose plans and preferences complement your own.

However, when you are ready to get to know a potential intended family better, you will still need to ask some clarifying questions about their surrogacy goals — especially if you are finding intended parents without the help of an agency.

Questions to Ask Intended Parents

Here are some of the most important interview questions for intended parents as you evaluate your compatibility:

Throughout your conversation, you will also need to be prepared to answer questions about your own surrogacy goals and preferences. A surrogacy specialist can help you build a solid surrogacy plan before meeting with intended parents so you can feel confident answering their questions.

What to Watch For When Interviewing Intended Parents

As you get to know intended parents, you should be looking for someone that you feel comfortable with and who agrees with you on important aspects about the surrogacy experience.

If you are working with an agency throughout the matching process, your prospective matches will have already gone through an extensive screening process to ensure they are safe to work with and committed to surrogacy. However, there are still some red flags to look for when getting to know the intended parents:

While some of these factors may have a reasonable explanation, these are issues that need to be resolved prior to signing any legal documents or beginning the medical process. You should trust your instincts when talking to a potential match. If it doesn’t feel “right,” you may not have found your match yet. When in doubt, consult with a surrogacy professional for guidance.

Final Thoughts

Getting to know the intended parents is an exciting and essential step in the process, and one that puts you that much closer to achieving your surrogacy goals. While you may be nervous to get to know the intended parents at first, this is the best way to ensure you have truly found your perfect match — and hopefully, develop a very special relationship unlike any other.

Are you interested in learning more about surrogacy or starting the process? Complete our form to request free surrogacy information now.

Get Free Info