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How Will I Feel Using an Egg Donor?

No matter how long you have been looking to grow your family, it’s understandable to feel a wide range of emotions when dealing with difficulties like egg quality.

Coming to terms with using donor eggs may make you feel any number of emotions. Understanding how to unpack and address those emotions isn’t always easy. You’re not alone. Many others have been in similar situations that resulted in the joyous experience of becoming a parent.

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Down below, we’ll look at the different emotions that can come with coping with using donor eggs as well as different coping strategies you can utilize.

How Does It Feel to Have a Baby with An Egg Donor?

There are a wide range of emotions you may feel when having a baby with an egg donor.

For some families, this may have been one of the few options they had left to grow their family, so emotions such as gratitude and joy could be at the top of the list of what they are feeling.

For other families, coming to terms with using donor eggs could result in emotions such as anxiety over how their child may feel as they get older or apprehension about how others will view their family.

Love runs much deeper than DNA and how they feel initially could look differently once experiencing the joys of parenthood.

The emotions of using an egg donor for IVF could include:

Not having a genetic connection to your baby or being able to physically contribute to the creation of your baby could result in feelings of grief.

A genetic connection isn’t the most important thing when it comes to having connection with your child but you could feel anxious over how else you can build the connection outside of your genetic connection.

No matter how long you have been waiting to become a parent is too long. Holding your child for the first time whether they were born using donor eggs or not can be a life-changing opportunity to tangibly experience an emotion like love and how your life will be different from that moment on.

The emotional side of using donor eggs could lead to frustration. It’s a more complicated process than a traditional pregnancy and infertility can feel unfair.

Depending on how many different forms of assisted reproductive technology (ART) you’ve tried to become parents, using donor eggs could give you hope that parenthood is still a possibility for you.

The creation of life is a wonder in and of itself. With the evolution of ART making parenthood possible for many that thought it was out of reach, you may feel an immense amount of appreciation and gratitude.

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Will I Regret Using Donor Eggs?

Wanting to know if you will regret using donor eggs is a common concern.

Donor egg recipient regrets are possible, whether it’s the anxiety discussed earlier or even donor egg grief about not being able to use your own eggs. You’re not alone.

With the rise of technology, we are more connected than ever before. If there isn’t anyone close by that you can talk to, casually or professionally about what you are feeling, there are online forums where you can talk with others who are going through similar situations.

Although no two journeys to parenthood look exactly alike, talking to others who have gone through situations similar to yours can help give you peace of mind.

How to Accept Using Donor Eggs

Whether you have just learned that you may need donor eggs to become pregnant or have known for a bit and are still coming to terms with using donor eggs, you are not alone.

The Society for Assisted Reproductive Technologies (SART) noted that in 2019, nearly 20,000 IVF transfers used donor eggs among clinics that reported which was a 14% rise from the past five years.

There is no one size fits all answer when it comes to coping with using donor eggs but here are a few strategies you can try:

Learning you may have to use donor eggs to help grow your family could have been a long process, a journey of understanding why. Processing that could have taken time and coming to terms with the emotional journey of using an egg donor can take time too. Allow yourself as much time as it takes.

When you think of counseling, you may be thinking of marriage or career counseling. However, finding professional support revolving around infertility is possible. These trained professionals can help you work through the emotions of using an egg donor for IVF.

Whether in person or line, there are support groups where you can talk with those who have had similar experiences. RESOLVE, the National Infertility Association, has a tool to help you find support groups by topic, online or in-person.

Understanding how the process works can help assuage some of the emotions you may be feeling. Egg donors have specific requirements they must meet.

While the child won\'t share your DNA, the way you raise your child and connect with them will affect their development. Your bond will be rooted in love, care and shared experiences.

If you don’t know how to accept using donor eggs, try and remember what you felt when you decided to grow your family. Experiencing parenthood is a life-changing opportunity and using an egg donor can help make that possible.

Regardless of how you may think using donor eggs changes the dynamic of you becoming a parent, it’s not about the genetic connection or lack thereof.

That’s because your connection with your child goes further than genetics. The love and support that your child will receive from you is what matters.

Contact us online if you are still looking for a fertility clinic. They will be responsible for the medical side of this journey and we can connect you to reputable clinics that are located close to you.